1. He is a Christian who walks with the Lord and helps me in my faith
As a Christian, this one is kind of a given. I actually remember purposefully putting this one first so that I wouldn't feel guilty about leaving it out or putting it later on in the list like it isn't important. Ian is a Christian, so he does fulfill this wish well. Whenever I am worried about something or stressing out (which seems to happen more and more often the older I get), he gently reminds me that God is in control and will work things out for the good. I think it's kind of ironic that Romans 8:28 is my favorite verse, but I need to be reminded of it's message the most.
2. He is funny and makes me laugh
Ian definitely fulfills this one! One of the first things I was attracted to in him was his sense of humor. He made even the most boring classes hilarious because of his witty remarks. I treasure every time someone tells me how hilarious Ian is. I think it is really important to laugh together with your spouse. Ian and I do laugh often and have a lot of fun together.
3. He is romantic
When Ian and I were first dating I didn't know if he would be very romantic or not, but turns out he has a lot of moments where he is very sweet. He came up with a genius way of proposing to me, and had my family and friends waiting for me after the proposal as a surprise. He knows what will make me smile. I think he is just the perfect amount of romantic for me.
4. He is adventurous
This fits, even though Ian doesn't like roller coasters or camping. We do find plenty of things to do together that are adventurous like spelunking or snorkeling!
5. He can/is willing to dance
Well, this one didn't really work out as well as I had hoped haha. Though he will dance with me in the kitchen when no one is looking and he willingly went swing dancing with me once even though he hated it. The only time he got out on the dance floor and didn't care who was watching was at our wedding, which I think is perfect.
6. He likes to travel
Yes he does, and we have lots of plans for future travel when we have the time! We also both enjoy doing similar things while traveling (like going to museums, etc.) which is a plus.
7. He is outgoing
What I was looking for in this one was someone to help me with meeting people because I am a quiet extrovert, so I needed someone that would help me with that. Well, I married an introvert, but it forces me to be more extroverted and I think his personality does compliment mine.
8. He speaks another language/is willing to learn
Didn't really get this one either, but it makes me smile when Ian randomly says something kind of in Spanish with his limited Spanish knowledge. This just means that whenever we travel to another country I will be the one translating, which I am very excited about!
9. He is cuddly with me
Definitely. Ian and I have both of the same love languages, which means I am never left guessing if he loves me or cares about me. We are perfectly happy sometimes just to sit and cuddle and talk about life, and I love it.
10. He respects my boundaries when dating
Yes, Ian was very good about that. It was so nice when we were dating not to be pressured into something I wasn't ready for.
11. He gets along with my family
He does get along with my family, and that is very important to me. My family means a lot to me and it would be so stressful if I married someone that didn't like them or that they didn't like. I am so thankful that this was not a problem.
12. He has a good reputation
Yes, he does. He also is a very hard worker and has a good reputation at work and I am very proud of him for that. I wanted this in a husband because this shows that he has a good character and I can trust him to be a good guy.
13. He likes spicy food
Umm, what? Haha this was such a random one that I added in, and Ian definitely does NOT like spicy food. I think I wanted this because then it would mean that I could cook spicy things. It still works out, because Ian likes chips and salsa, and I can just order spicy things on my own when we go out to eat. Liking spicy food really is not that important of a quality for a future husband unless you can only eat spicy food and nothing else haha.
So it turns out my husband fulfilled most of my list. Nine out of thirteen is good, especially when the other four are not really that important. The important thing here is that God brought me someone that was perfect for me, even when I didn't know exactly what that would look like. Some things I thought I needed, and it turns out they were not as necessary as I thought. Now I can look at this list and it reminds me that I can plan and think that I know what I want, but in the end God truly knows what I need better than I do. I have been blessed with a husband that is just right for me. I wouldn't change a thing.
